Barbara Darling managed libraries. In 1983 she invited me to a conference that July. She came to my room in Parkville to make clear I was needed. It was the first time we met. She was a great one for book learning, but the person came first. Barbara became a bishop. Not that this is the person I remember, in an official Reiss-Orford photograph. The last time we met was in my room at the Community library in Cheltenham. Always her friendly smile. Barbara had a bootload of books to donate, now she was ‘retiring’ to study further Spiritual Direction.